When Do Failures Become A Sign To Move On?

17 Dec


Have you ever seen someone fail at their dreams time and time again?  Do you know someone who tries and tries in hopes that one day their hard work will finally pay off but much time has passed and it hasn’t?  Maybe this person is yourself.  Maybe, you have found yourself reaching for your dreams only to find yourself further away from them from when you started.  When we meet our obstacles and those obstacles bull doze over us we must ask ourselves are these failures a sign to move, put on hold or pursue something different.

The answer to this question is just as difficult to answer for yourself, as it is to answer for  others.  Society tells us that we need to jump over those obstacles and that those obstacles must overcome, but what about when those obstacles always win.  They say, “you never know until you try.”  What do they say when you have tried and failed again and again?


Let me state that having goals and dreams are absolutely necessary.  Goals and dreams are necessary because what follows is purpose.  Humans need purpose.  However, in that same sentence, dreams and goals can become destructive.  What do you do when your dreams hurt others?

For example, a parents dream is to own their own business, but they are putting more effort, time and money into that then caring whether their child is in school, feeling loved and paid attention to.  They continue to try and make this business work, but are failing.  The child wakes up in the morning and must make the decision them self of going to school that day or not because the parents are out of state trying to make their business work.

Now what?  This dream seems to be getting in the way of the responsibilities of being a parent to growing teens who are still trying to figure out who they are and what is right and wrong.  When your dreams out weigh your responsibilities, you may need to reevaluate your dream or put it on hold.  Let’s keep it real here, nobody wants to believe they’ve dreamed too big or wants to put their dream on hold.  After all, we aren’t promised tomorrow or even today.  I will say though, that I am a big believer and want people to be rewarded for their hard work, but sometimes that isn’t enough.  You may need to move on to something else in the mean time.  At the end of the day, you have to sacrifice for the things that are most important to you.

Just an ittybittybee thinking out loud


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